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Questions to Get to Know Someone
You can know someone for years and never really know them. Or you can ask the right question once and learn more in five minutes than five months of 'how was your day.' These work for anyone — new friends, dates, coworkers, or the person you've sat next to for a year.
- 1Do you consider yourself a good influence or a bad influence?
- 2What's one thing about the person you're trying to become?
- 3If you could be remembered for one thing, what would it be?
- 4What did you want to be when you were a kid?
- 5What meal feels like home?
- 6What are you obsessed with right now?
- 7What is your biggest green flag?
- 8What is your biggest red flag?
- 9What's something you're weirdly good at that has zero practical use?
- 10What's a lesson you keep having to relearn?
- 11If you could master any skill overnight, what would it be?
- 12What is one thing you want to do but are too scared?
- 13What are you particular about?
- 14If you could live in any era for a week, where are you going?
- 15What's something everyone assumes about you that isn't true?
- 16What's a promise you will never break?
- 17What would be a dream come true for you?
- 18What are you avoiding right now?
frequently asked
How do you get to know someone fast?
Ask questions that reveal values, not just facts. 'What's a promise you will never break?' tells you more about someone than their job title ever will. The key is asking things that require a real answer, not a rehearsed one.
What questions should you avoid when getting to know someone?
Anything that feels like an interview — rapid-fire surface questions. 'Where are you from? What do you do? Do you have siblings?' gets data, not a person. Ask fewer questions but better ones, and actually listen to the answers.